Counselling for Couples
Most relationships will come under stress at some time, whether this is as a result of a painful event, such as an affair coming to light, or where couples come to realise that after many years together they have simply grown apart. It may be that couples seek help due to changes in financial situations, physical or mental health problems, grief or loss, extended families, careers, poor communication or understanding of each other, the influence of family members, domestic abuse and aging. If left unattended the relationship can deteriorate and rifts deepen.
Couple counselling is the process of therapeutically helping partners in a relationship to recognise and better manage or reconcile troublesome differences, conflict or repeating patterns of distress. In couple counselling we recognise and acknowledge that each person has a unique personality, perception, set of values and history that might be different and at odds from their partner’s. Individuals in the relationship may adhere to different value systems such as social, religious, group and other collective factors which shape a person’s nature and behaviour. These are all considered in the process of counselling and therapy.
What does the Therapy involve?
At your first meeting, your counsellor will outline what will happen during the couples counselling sessions, talk with you about your expectations and will ask you for a general history of your relationship and about the issues that you are bringing to counselling.
Couples Counselling involves confidential conversations between the counsellor and both partners within the relationship. The counsellor remains non judgmental and neutral to both of you. The sessions provide a place and space for difficult and conflicted thoughts and emotions to be spoken of and heard. They enable you both to share your thoughts and feelings and to say whats ‘really on your mind’.
During the discussions, the counsellor will consider and evaluate your personal and relationship story as it is told, will interrupt wisely, facilitating both a de-escalation of unhelpful conflict and the development of realistic, practical solutions where appropriate. The counsellor will help you both to reflect upon your relationship’s difficulties and identify the potential and direction for change.
During counselling, the counsellor may take on a number of different roles including facilitator, mediator and observer. The counsellor is there to support you as a couple and to encourage you to take responsibility for your own choices and actions. They will also analyse your behaviours and the ways in which you communicate with each other. They may teach one or both of you new skills or techniques which will help you to communicate and relate more effectively to one another, or help you with behavioural changes.
Remember it is not the role of the counsellor to resolve the issues for you, but for you to develop your skills so you can resolve the issues between yourselves.
Couple counselling generally takes place over a number of weeks or months and usually involves both partners in the relationship attending the sessions.
What are the Benefits?
Couples Counselling enables you to talk about your issues within a safe and comfortable environment, providing you with the opportunity to:
- Identify ways to move forward in your relationship and improve your communication levels
- Learn how to negotiate and compromise with one another
- Discover how to work through unresolved issues
- Understand how to resolve conflict and problem solve in a productive manner
- Develop appropriate expression, disclosure and resolution of painful emotions
- Gain confidence as a couple in stating your needs clearly and openly within your relationship
The objective of couples counselling is to help you rebuild your relationship and stay together. However, it may be that as a couple you decide to separate, in which case, couples counselling can also help you to do this more amicably. In most cases, there is a way forward with couples counselling but it requires an effort from both parties and an acceptance that it can often be a long and difficult process.
50 minutes £72.00
Booking and Cancellation
Full payment for your first therapy session will be taken in advance, at the time of booking (the Agency Fee).
As our appointments are in high demand, we require at least 48 hours notice to cancel your appointment.
Where 48 hours or more notice has been given, your session fee will be refunded less a cancellation fee of £15.00.
Where less than 48 hours notice is given, the session will be charged in full and there will be no refund
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